“Colossal” & feminism

I know it’s been an almost 2-year-old movie, but I just finished watching and loving it for the first time!

The story: A woman that basically does nothing but partying and drinking is kicked out of the home where she lives with her boyfriend (he kicks her out). Woman goes back to her home town, meets old friend and starts working as a waitress at the bar he owns. Meanwhile, a gigantic monster attacks Seoul. Eventually, the woman discovers that she is mentally connected to the monster.

(Spoilers ahead, keep reading at your own risk in case you haven’t seen the movie. And if you haven’t just watch it! It’s worth it!)

Well, I was sceptical at the beginning and curious about where the things were heading with the plot (having studied cinema I’m not the easiest person to be amazed by a movie/script /etc). But in the end of this one I really was amazed!

A mix and match of reality (past and present) and a metaphorical story/urban legend. The woman is ruled by her addiction, her (ex)boyfriend is criticizing her all the time and treating her like she’s less than he is, the old friend is acting kind of weird and seems like he has some well kept issues with her.

Both men seem to want the best for her. But do they?

This movie is the perfect allegory of all the unhealthy (basically what we call “toxic” in pop culture) relationships that an individual can have. And it’s no coincidence that the “individual” in the movie is a woman.

Apart from all the references in addiction, substance abuse and toxic friendships in the movie, there are so many references about women and the things that they have to face each single day!

Being in an emotionally abusive relationship, being in a psychically abusive relationship, in case (for example) of a one night stand having to face all the negative criticism instead of the male partner, living in a society that a larger-than-it-should-be part of it believes that a women are somehow less than men, that they shouldn’t do things with their life, thinking that they’re weak, that they can (or should) control them!

We, women, have all been through this kind of experiences. And probably will be again. But the important thing is to love ourselves, and be friends with ourselves first of all, and follow our instinct, and our dreams and goals, and stand up for ourselves if needed. Or stand up for other women and people in case they need it.

It all starts with self-love.

And then there’s knowing your worth and your rights.

And then it’s thinking clearly, and not necessarily according to the “do’s” and “don’t s” that we were raised with!

It’s like in the movie, at the end, the heroine breaks her bonds, ends her “toxic” relationships and friendships, and starts over, with her own rules, taking care of herself first!

Practically the best thing to do.


The importance of beauty

Let’s start from what I refer to as “beauty”.

For me, beauty are all those things/people/anything else that make you smile when you look at them. Beauty are all the details that you can notice around you. Is the face that looks straight back at you from the mirror, is all the color that exists. Beauty is art.

Beauty is really all around us. And that’s a fact. There is no way anyone can look around without spotting even the slightest pinch of beauty (and trust me, I have suffered from depression and even then, I could notice beauty, although I couldn’t feel things about it)!

Many times, I’m wondering how important it is to have beauty in our lives?

Or maybe, a better question is how important it is to notice the beauty all around.

Life can get tough, and the world is anything but ideal, but sometimes a beautiful thing/gesture/scene can help you pause, maybe have a few-seconds-break, believe or just smile.

Beauty varies, for each one of us is different, but its affect on us isn’t so different after all. This is my conclusion.

Beauty is crucial. For our mental health, for our wellness, for keep going.

And even the daily search for it, is an interesting journey, that never gets old!

Quotes & reality 

Recently, I worked with words as ideas about my personal journey in life, as part of a performance I’m working on. I sent a basic list of notes to a friend. He liked them, but commented that were clichés. 

And I found it weird. Because, yeah, this was a basic list of the ideas I was working on, but they were conclusions I have reached to after a lot of mistakes, experiences and years. 

I started thinking about all the clichés, the quotes, all the phrases that have survived since the times of our great grandparents, until today. What’s the truth inside them?

I believe that, in general, in life everything starts from within, from each one of us, individually. Everyone is going on a journey, that’s basically life, with the ups and downs, and the problems, and the interaction with the whole world; and each one of us tries to figure things out. It’s happening today, it was happening in the past, and probably will keep happening, because it’s part of the mankind. Humans are curious creatures and they want answers, that’s how they evolved (well, among other things). And answers need words to be documented.

So, I’m thinking that all these quotes and clichés and catch phrases (traditional or not) are basically life conclusions turned into words. And they survived in time, because some truths about life are quite universal. After all, we all know that feeling of listening to a phrase and the instant “click” that we feel in our brain, because that phrase is basically what we’re feeling (or experienced, or thinking). Or some other times, we hear a quote and after some time we finally realize how true it really is. And everything is coming from a personal journey, each human’s personal experiences. Even the one that first quoted a phrase, did it after his/her personal observations!

“Life is too short”. YES IT IS! Life is even shorter than we think. If you had some death encounters, you know it too well. It’s an idea that basically lives with you each single day. I know I had my share of encounters, I had suicidal thoughts in the past, during 2017 my mom went through treatment for her stage 3 cancer, my father almost died from kidney failure. After being through all these, I think about how short life is each single day, and feeling grateful that I am alive!

“You gotta break some eggs to make an omelet”. Yes, you have! When you’re in the process of following your dreams, working towards your goals, or even just living life, there is no way you can make no mistakes! To accomplish things you must make mistakes, “fall, again and again”. I’m someone who is ambitious in a very healthy way, and I want things, so I work in order to accomplish them. I have fallen many times, I have made mistakes, and I will keep doing so in the future, but things do turn out pretty well in the end!

And I can keep writing more and more examples of quotes and ideas, but everyone reading this has his/her personal journey to go on, so that’s it for now!

I would love to listen to your favorite phrases and quotes that feel like part of your experiences!